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Scared of people

Over the course of my life I’ve been developing a sort of personality that I now hope I hadn’t adopted. I’ve shut myself off from the world and become a very big introvert. I mean, being an introvert is not bad, in fact I love being one! But sometimes it just goes to the extreme. Today while talking to someone who is very close to me I couldn’t even look them in the eye. Sometimes I  just start sweating and trip on words. (Let me clear up that this happens to me with a lot of people, not just this one). It gets very frustrating at times.

After careful evaluation of my actions I have come to the conclusion that I’m scared of people. So as a kind of self-therapy I’ve decided I’m going to let go of my fears on this post.

People are just human beings. Why am I scared of them? Lets list the reasons:

  1. I worry too much of what others could think
  2. I over think everything

That’s about all I can think of. But we can conclude that my problem is over thinking and I do a lot of it. Just imagine thinking for about 10 minutes if you should send a message to someone through Facebook. It’s not only in real life but also on the internet when there are so many barriers between me and the other person.

I’m horrible at starting conversations and even worse at keeping them going. When somebody asks me something I normally kill the conversation right there. Even with my family. Once my father asked me a question and I answered with a simple “yes” and a spot on explanation that required no further discussion. My mother pointed out to me that I was too fast on killing the conversation and also too aggressive. Of course, it isn’t my intention to do so, it just happens.

Telephones. Cellphones. Calls. Video Calls. Those are the names of my worst nightmares. I’m always scared of how my voice might sound on through the phone, or how my face might look through the webcam or camera.

Now that we’re done with the causes, naturally we should discuss solutions. What can I do to stop over thinking? What do I do to stop worrying so much about things? People say “Talk to someone” but I already have and it hasn’t helped much. Writing this whole posts costs as talking to someone, maybe it’ll help me pour out my worries, even if I’m literally talking to myself. (Talking to myself is something I quite enjoy, I don’t mind saying it. NO I’M NOT CRAZY!) . Right now I honestly feel better.

Being so shy is a very big problem in my life. Often losing opportunities for things that should be done right when you have the chance.(If I know you and you’re very close to me you might have an idea of what I’m talking about). Tomorrow morning I will make sure the first thing that goes through my mind is “I will not be shy” and I’ll keep repeating it. They say positive thinking is very powerful.

Alright, I’m feeling much better now. Thank you for helping me. I leave you with this picture of a thing:

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Blogging vs Vlogging

I haven’t written here in quite a while, and this blog is now little over a year old. To make it clear, I don’t plan on writing regular posts on here. Why? That will be explained further on. Now on with blogging and vlogging.

Lets start by defining both words.

Blogging is the form of written communication. People who practice this activity write in a personal web journal called a blog. Blogs are divided into posts which are entries displayed in reverse chronological order.

Vlogging is short for Video Blogging. It is a form of blogging for which the medium is video.  Vlogging is a very popular category in YouTube.

Simple enough to understand right? The major difference is that blogging is text-based and vlogging is based on video (as the name already tells us). But, which is better? Well let me start of by saying vlogging can be used to complement a blog or it can be used alone. The same goes for blogging, many video bloggers or vloggers (what you call people who vlog) use blogs to sometime write and further expand the topic(s) explored in their vlog.

Honestly, I think it comes down to personal preference. I personally prefer video blogging, and this take me to another section of this post. Why? Why do I prefer vlogging over blogging?

I think that while vlogging you have a better opportunity to express yourself fully. You can talk like you’re in a normal conversation with your friends. When your blogging you have to pay attention to making your post attractive to the reader. Punctuation, pictures, all those things. I’m not saying you don’t need these things when you vlog, because you do need to have good lighting, good video quality and a good enough voice tone. Without those things your viewer will stop watching the video. You need to establish eye contact with your viewer (this means look to your camera lens!). The thing with vlogging is that you feel more complete, more free, it’s taking the interaction with your audience to a whole other level.

And that’s why I don’t blog frequently. I’ve started video blogging and I’m incredibly in love with it. At first it will feel awkward and you’ll ask yourself, ”Why am I sitting here talking to a camera?”, but once you get past that initial stage of awkwardness you’ll start feeling the love. It doesnt matter if you have 5 viewers, 10, 100, or 10,000, even if you have 0 viewers and you like what you’re doing, keep doing it! People will find you eventually and you’ll start building a community around your videos. See what you can improve on and improve, become one of the best at vlogging. Certainly, I’m not, I don’t have more than 8 viewers, but I follow the tips I gave you, I’ve been vlogging for less than a month.

If you’re really interested in vlogging, here are some helpful videos:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k2lY0T5cA0s -How to vlog, Vlogbrothers

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YtvKLtMnH4U -How to vlog, Myles Dyer

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BDvqMOncvpE&feature=relmfu -Have confidence issues? But want to vlog?, Myles Dyer

Just like if you want to become a musician you have to listen to music, or if you want to be a writer you have to read, if you want to vlog you have to watch good video blogs. I’ll provide you with a list of my favourite YouTube vloggers with links to their channels right here:

Charlieissocoollike (Charlie McDonnell) – http://www.youtube.com/user/charlieissocoollike?blend=1&ob=4

Vlogbrothers (Hank Green & John Green) – http://www.youtube.com/user/vlogbrothers?feature=watch

thatzak – http://www.youtube.com/user/thatzak?blend=1&ob=4

Your Average Adam – http://www.youtube.com/user/YourAverageAdam

Nerimon ( Alex Day) – http://www.youtube.com/user/nerimon

NerdzRL (Daily Vlogs)- http://www.youtube.com/user/NerdzRL?blend=1&ob=video-mustangbase

Shaytards (Daily Vlogs) – http://www.youtube.com/user/shaytards?blend=1&ob=4

Now, when you search “How to Vlog”, there will be people who tell you to not use a webcam or cheap cameras. Don’t listen to those people. Vloggers start small and work their way up. Imagine buying a $400 or more camera and end up not enjoying vlogging. It will be a complete waste of money.

“Skill is honed by lack, and there’s no reason to have a sword made out of Valerian steel if your just learning how to wield a knife.”

– Hank Green.  More about that on the first helpful video I linked.

You can also do both vlogging and blogging at the same time. Like I mentioned before, they can compliment each other. Notice in the different channels I listed, there are 2 that are “Daily Vlogs”. I think the name explains itself quite clearly. If you’re interested in that you can watch them to get examples and learn. I don’t do daily vlogs because my life is currently not interesting enough to share with the world. Although when I go to college I plan to try them out.

I suggest you start out with YouTube. Leave a comment with your channel’s link and lets see if we can start a network of new vlogs. Subscribe to each other and jump-start your community!

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